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3 Ways to Effective
Communication in You Marriage
All marriages will have communication problems
once in a while. But when poor communication
with your spouse becomes a chronic problem, all
aspects of your life together can be affected.
Read on for some simple communication techniques
for common communication issues.
Honesty
Speaking honestly and openly with your spouse
may be the most important factor to effective
communication. The lack of which may be one of
the most basic causes behind conflicts. Before
you start to blame your spouse for not being
open and honest, take a look at your
communication habits. Do you ever:
-Tell your spouse what you think they want to
hear just to end the argument?
-Avoid bringing up an issue thatimportant to you
because it makes your spouse uncomfortable?
-Not ask for what you want directly, instead
hoping that they will figure it out?
Listening
There is a difference between waiting for your
spouse to make a point before you These are just
a few of the common communication pitfalls that
prevent honest and productive discussions from
happening. By avoiding the real issues, for
whatever the reason, you are not being honest
with your spouse and you are cheating yourself
from resolving the problem. Not only will this
cause more problems in the future, but you will
both feel unsatisfied and you can be sure the
argument will surface again. Honest
communication means discussing an issue with
maturity and respect.
contradict it and actually trying to understand
what they are saying. You canexpect your spouse
to take the time to listen to you if you dont do
the same for them. Encourage your spouse to open
up to you and understand that you may have
to make the first move. Offering to let your
spouse talk first while you listen may help them
understand your commitment to a productive
conversation. Give feedback as they talk and try
to summarize what they have said to make sure
you really understand where they are coming
from. Your patience and understanding will pay
off as they show you the same respect when its
your turn to open up.
Practice
Once youve found what communication tactics work
use them. It may take a while to find out what
methods work best, but I bet you already know
what doesnt work. Start with identifying those
tactics that dont get you anywhere; whether its
be yelling, ignoring, or avoiding the issue.
Talk with your spouse and make a resolution to
identify and stop the unhealthy and unproductive
communication tactics that are restricting you
from effective, productive communication. And
dont be afraid to try new communication tactics.
Marriage takes a lot of work and practice makes
perfect.
For more information on effective communication
and conflict resolution, visit http://www.marriagemax.com
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